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How to Find a Rich Woman to Date

The Exact Steps: How to Date a Rich Woman

1. Hang out where you know a lot of rich people are. You don't have to move to Palm Beach or anything. Try an exclusive fitness center, an upscale restaurant like the Cheesecake Factory, or country club.

2. If you see that she's got a designer bag and sunglasses then you can probably go for it. Be careful and learn to recognize impostors.



3. Dress in all white (only if before labor day) many people don't know this but white makes you seem richer. Act like you're important and if you can get someone to call you and yell at them on the phone for a while. Consider investing in a nice and expensive phone.

4. Hang up and look to see if you've caught her eye. If so, approach her and try to make small talk, see if you can find out what her dad does for a living. If he's a surgeon, lawyer or if you recognize his name...you've found your girl!! Ask her out to somewhere expensive, like Mortons. This is the one gamble because you're obviously going to have to pay for the first date and you do not want her to think you are miserly so don't be afraid to splurge. If she's really hot you may not want to waste your time unless she seems to really dig you. Get her number and don't call her for a few days. You want to seem mysterious and hard to get. Don't seem available or desperate.



5. Congratulations! The hard part is over! Now all you have to do is impress her on your date and you're in! Sorry but you're going to have to go shopping and buy something way hot and in and get her a single red rose (a dozen seems desperate) Wear a memorable cologne and if you can spray some on her clothes (in secret) before the night is over to jog her memory when she goes to take off her clothes. This will get her remembering you and wanting more. Be a gentleman on your date. Have a friend call you in the middle of the date. Apologize profusely to your hot date and speak gruffly but with class to your friend. She will be intrigued and think of her important daddy.

6. For your second date go somewhere free. Try a walk in the park or the beach. It won't break the bank and will show her you have a softer side. Have your buddy call you again but instead of answering it this time look at the call and turn off your phone or, better yet, if she will fall for it, do like in the movies and break it. She will instantly be in love with you.



7. If all goes well the two of you will soon be tighter than ever. Begin to let her offer to pay and soon things will fall in to place. Research her dad on the Internet or talk to his assistants and see if you can find his interests. When she takes you to meet them, bring a bottle of the most expensive wine (try your parents wine collection if you live near them) Tell her mom you know where her daughter got her looks and make sure you compliment her fathers cars, house, pool, etc. and make sure you talk about those interests you found out about him. It helps to bring "props" if possible. Never lie, just stretch the truth.

Tips and Tricks

• You have to decide early on whether your rich persona will be nouveau rich or old money rich. Both approaches have upsides and downsides.


• Falling in love with this girl is always a plus. You will never have to worry about money again.


• Winning her dad over is key.


• Make sure you got game.


• Wear expensive cologne.


• In the long run, money wont make you compatible so try to find your own ways to become rich, instead of looking for someone with money.

Warning!

You might end up marrying a woman that you do not love. This is a good recipe for an unhappy life. Then again, this won't be such a big deal since you will be able to cash in on alimony payments when the marriage ends up in divorce.

Via www.wikihow.com.

How to Use condoms: a Complete Guide - Part 1

Why do I need to use a condom?

Condoms are the only form of protection that can both help to stop the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) such as HIV and prevent pregnancy.

Getting ready, choosing the right condom

A number of different types of condom are now available. What is generally called a condom is the 'male' condom, a sheath or covering which fits over a man's penis, and which is closed at one end.

There is also now a female condom, or vaginal sheath, which is used by a woman and which fits inside her vagina. The rest of this page is about the male condom.

What are condoms made of?

Condoms are usually made of latex or polyurethane. If possible you should use a latex condom, as they are slightly more reliable, and in most countries they are most readily available.

Latex condoms can only be used with water based lubricants, not oil based lubricants such as Vaseline or cold cream as they break down the latex. A small number of people have an allergic reaction to latex and can use polyurethane condoms instead.

Polyurethane condoms are made of a type of plastic. They are thinner than latex condoms, and so they increase sensitivity and are more agreeable in feel and appearance to some users. They are more expensive than latex condoms and slightly less flexible so more lubrication may be needed. However both oil and water based lubricants can be used with them.

It's not clear whether latex or polyurethane condoms are stronger – there are studies suggesting that either is less likely to break. With both types however, the likelihood of breakages is very small if used correctly.

The lubrication on condoms also varies. Some condoms are not lubricated at all, some are lubricated with a silicone substance, and some condoms have a water-based lubricant. The lubrication on condoms aims to make the condom easier to put on and more comfortable to use. It can also help prevent condom breakage.

Spermicides and Nonoxynol 9

Condoms and lubricants sometimes contain a spermicide called Nonoxynol 9. Adding Nonoxynol 9 to condoms was thought in the past to help to prevent pregnancy and the transmission of HIV and other STDs, but it is now known to be ineffective.

Some people have an allergic reaction to Nonoxynol 9 that can result in little sores, which can actually make the transmission of HIV more likely. Because of this, you should only use condoms and lubricants containing Nonoxynol 9 if you are HIV negative and know that your partner is too. However, using a condom (even if it contains Nonoxynol 9) is much safer than having unprotected sex.

What shapes are there and which should I choose? What about flavoured condoms?

Condoms come in a variety of shapes. Most have a reservoir tip although some do have a plain tip. Condoms may be regular shaped (with straight sides), form fit (indented below the head of the penis), or they may be flared (wider over the head of the penis).

Ribbed condoms are textured with ribs or bumps, which can increase sensation for both partners. Condoms also come in a variety of colours.

It's up to you which shape you choose. All of the differences in shape are designed to suit different personal preferences and enhance pleasure. It is important to communicate with your partner to be sure that you are using condoms that satisfy both of you.

Some condoms are flavoured to make oral sex more enjoyable. They are also safe to use for penetrative sex as long as they have been tested and approved.

What about the condom size?

Condoms are made in different lengths and widths, and different manufacturers produce varying sizes.

There is no standard length for condoms, though those made from natural rubber will in addition always stretch if necessary to fit the length of the man's erect penis.

The width of a condom can also vary. Some condoms have a slightly smaller width to give a "closer" fit, whereas others will be slightly larger. Condom makers have realised that different lengths and widths are needed and are increasingly broadening their range of sizes.

The brand names will be different in each country, so you will need to do your own investigation of different names. There is no particular best brand of condom.

From avert.org.

How to Use iPhone to Impress Women

When iPhone was first released, just having one was enough to draw attention and establish hipness with beautiful women. Remember when girls crowded around for a demonstration of the magical touchscreen or to watch YouTube videos in the palm of your hand?

Their eyes widened with childlike wonder as you described the beauty and elegance of iPhone and its utter superiority to every device known to man.

Sadly, those days are gone. In the past year iPhone has become common place. With the coming price drop to $200 any goober will be able to get one.

Yet the iPhone is still a powerful tool. Here are the best ways to unleash the seductive power of iPhone.

1. Unlock it

Nothing tempts a girl's wild side like a bad boy, and that's exactly what an unlocked iPhone says: I don't play by the rules, danger doesn't scare me, and I have crazy skills you can't even comprehend. Plus it gives you access to the 3rd party apps that are too cool for regular users.

Who cares if it can be done by any chump in 45 seconds. She doesn't know that. Bonus points for using the term "hacked" and alluding to the danger of an iPhone being "bricked".

2. All-Star Photo Album

So you just met a cute girl. How do you prove that you do amazing things all the time and have many cool friends? This is the ideal use-case for the All-Star photo album. Create a special album on your iPhone of all your most impressive pics: snow boarding in the Swiss Alps, you with your friends at the Radiohead concert, and pictures of you with other attractive women are all good candidates.

When you get her alone for a moment, say something like, "OMG you've gotta see this photo of me [insert cool thing here]" and proceed to go through the entire album, commenting about how great a time you had and how cool your friends are.

3. iPod Tunes Master

Dozens of targeted playlists in the palm of your hand. This needs no explanation. Create playlists to set different moods: chill, party-time, low key, and of course, romantic. To get the ultimate effect, invest in a set of portable speakers. When you bust out the tunes at the beach, park, etc. you will be the man. We highly recommend flipping through cover flow mode for maximum visual effect.

4. Contacts, the more the merrier

Make sure you have lots of contacts, because seriously, you are so freaking popular. To inflate your contacts count, import all of your email contacts into your address book and upload them to iPhone. She won't know that 2/3 of those people have never seen you in person.

Expert tip: Complain about searching your contacts list saying, "I can't stand looking for contacts on my iPhone -- it only lets you search by 1 letter. How am I supposed to sort through 300 Johns?" Note: This is the only acceptable circumstance to complain about iPhone.

5. Stocks

Women like men with money and ambition. Show her you're on the way to wealth by constantly checking your stocks. When you catch her trying to see what you're looking at, casually comment on your gains and losses, throwing around buzz words like "credit crisis", "oil bubble", and "consumer confidence". Assure her you will achieve superior returns by investing in commodities and precious metals that will be essential to the growth of developing nations.

6. Save the Day with Maps

Maps is the ultimate clutch iPhone feature. The best time to break it out is when you're with a group of people and need to find something in an unknown area -- pizza, hardware store, gas station, etc. As soon as the opportunity arises, execute a search in maps and lead the group to success. Even better if you can use iPhone to instantly call the place. By solving the problem and taking charge you'll establish yourself as a resourceful leader -- a quality highly regarded by women.

7. Look Smart with Safari

When an argument arises over a particular fact, look smarter than everyone else by finding the correct answer with Google. This is the only time you will wish to conceal iPhone use from females. It's great for settling disputes about the proper definition of a word or the location of obscure African nations.

In case it's not clear, using iPhone will make you look like a rich, smart, cultured, resourceful, exciting, and popular bad ass. We can't wait for 3G.

Via www.peoplejam.com.

Why Do Women Date Older Men?

Do you remember when you were twenty years old and that beautiful twenty-year-old brunette who never once looked at you because she thought you were too young and too immature -- even though the two of you were the same age? She was the type of woman who dated men in their late twenties or early thirties.

Now that you're in your late twenties or early thirties, you still can't attract that brunette because she still wants an older man (now between thirty five to forty five years old). Well guess what? It's time for you to start dating younger women too.

Understanding Young Women

It is a known fact that women are attracted to older men. When I say older, I don't necessarily mean that a twenty-five year old will date a man who's seventy-three. What I'm saying is that relative to their own age, women, in general, will date men that are a few years older than themselves. So if a woman is twenty, she'll date a man in his thirties. If she's thirty, she'll probably date a man in his forties and so on. Why is it that women behave in such a way? The following passage from "How to Date Young Women" by R. Don Steele best explains it:

She is primarily interested in getting a husband-to-be on the hook. It takes her a year of going steady to feel she has got him under control.

Once this is accomplished, she wants to see what she has been missing. She goes dancing and partying with "the girls" where she practices interacting with new boys and young men. After a few months, she's ready again. Her experimentation begins with another boy, her naive version of an affair. She enjoys the excitement of getting away with something so she finds one Randy RedPorsche, a singles' bar professional. He bangs her on Thursday nights when she's "out with the girls" and on Monday nights when Jimmy's "out with the boys."

When Jimmy finds out, he breaks up with her. But soon RedPorsche gets bored and trashes her. She begs Jimmy to take her back. He does. Each claims to have discovered how much they really love each other after four weeks apart. They prove it by exchanging wedding vows. In reality, they're both terrified of the single world.

If Jimmy won't take her back, she tries a brief but uninspired crack at single life. After getting screwed literally and figuratively by one user after another...she becomes as plastic as the rest and starts hanging out in pick-up bars.

Of course, after realizing that the world is not as rosy as it seems, she soon appreciates the maturity of an older man. This is where we come along.

What She Looks For

Most women will admit that they want a strong man who can stand his own ground and be confident. Back in the day, this meant an egg fertilizer with blessed genetics who could hunt to feed his family while protecting them from predators.



Of course, today we live in a more civilized society. Women no longer need a mate, hunter or protector (they now have sperm clinics, supermarkets and police officers to do that). But because of her upbringing, a woman still expects a man to provide for his family. She now expects her man to be mature and provide financial stability along with long-term security.

Fertilizing her eggs is no longer enough to satisfy a woman. The Romantic Era and current television soap operas have inspired women to seek out men who have the sexual experience to enlighten the consummate. Women want men who have more than just oral sex on their minds; they want men who know every single sensual spot on (and in) their bodies, and who take the time to explore them thoroughly.

All these traits can be found in most men that are eighteen or over. But more often than not, women will associate older men with the capability of providing all the aforementioned traits. The only thing older men need to do is seduce them.

How to Seduce Her

Not all women are the same -- especially if they still haven't gone through that first love experience. But this does not mean you still can't flirt with that beautiful twenty one year old red head that works in the same building as you. Some young women will entertain the idea of dating an older man, while others will diplomatically pass up the invitation. But if you want to improve your chances, then you should keep these tips in mind:

Be a friend: The last thing a young woman needs is a man that wants what every other boy wants -- to get into her pants. She shouldn't feel as if you want something more than just a friendly chit-chat.

Be spontaneous: A woman likes a man who does things differently. It shows them that he is independent and fun to be with. After becoming friends, invite her to the local jazz club or the latest concert in town. The idea is to do something fun and expensive that other young men would not think of because they can't afford it.

Please her: Show her your maturity by doing the little important things. Proper grooming, dressing well, smelling good, and kissing her on the cheek (let her smell your cologne) all fit into this category. Show her the advantages of a comfortable car rather than having to take the bus. Don't be afraid to pay for her dinner (this demonstrates financial stability).

Be patient: After a couple of dates, never make the first move. If something will happen between the two of you, it will be her choice and at her own speed. But once she does make the first move, don't act like a teenage boy wanting to speed things up to the goal of "dipping the stick".

Instead, show her that she can trust you, that you won't force her to do anything that she does not feel comfortable with. You can do this by throwing her off balance by doing the unexpected such as just massaging her without going further. Make her think, "why doesn't he go further?" Always be a gentleman and keep her wanting more.

Over the years, we've come to accept that older is better because it has passed the test of time. This is thoroughly demonstrated through those who collect antique furniture or wine enthusiasts who appreciate a fifty-year-old bottle of Taylor Fladgate Porto. Because people associate age with experience -- and experience with better performance -- women will forever want to date older men.

Via askmen.com.

A Secret Women Know But Men Don't

By David DeAngelo



I'd like to tell you a story...

It's a story that you might find strangely
familiar. Don't be alarmed.

Once upon a time, there was a man who was very
attracted to a particular woman.

At first, she was just another attractive
woman... but the more he got to know her, the
more he began to feel attracted to her... and
the more time he spent with her, the more that
attraction grew into a deep emotional
attachment and affection for her.

But there was one problem.

As his emotional attachment grew stronger and
stronger, he also grew more and more insecure.

Why?

Because he couldn't tell whether or not she
felt the same way towards him.

Sometimes she would say things like "You are
so important to me" and "I'm glad that you're in
my life"... but nothing ever progressed past the
"friendship" stage.

There was an occasional hug, an occasional
kiss on the cheek from her... and once she even
held his hand for a long time while he talked
about an emotional issue.

But something was wrong with the picture.

She just wasn't acting like a woman that was
"falling in love". She was acting like a friend.

The insecurity that he felt became a spiral
that amplified itself... and the more insecure he
became, the more afraid he grew of "screwing
things up" by kissing her or asking her to be
his girlfriend.

Plus, the more insecure he became, the less
time she seemed to want to spend with him.

After spending many days and nights obsessing
over this girl, the man finally arrived at the
conclusion that if she only knew how HE FELT,
that she would feel the same way.

So he made a bold move.

He TOLD HER how he felt.

He confessed that he was in love, and that he
would do anything to be with her.

She looked at him with compassion in her eyes
and said "Thank you... I really mean that... but
I don't want to mess up our friendship... you're
too important to me...".

This only confused the man more.

He didn't know how to take it...

Did it mean that she really loved him too, but
that she was afraid of something?

Did it mean that she wasn't ready for a long-
term relationship?

Did it mean that she didn't love him, but that
she was trying to give him a hint?

Did it mean that he hadn't tried hard enough?

Did it mean that he needed to put everything on
the line and REALLY let her know how he felt?

He finally decided that he couldn't go on like
this anymore... he had to be with her.

He had to make sure that she knew just how much
he wanted to be with her... so he took a big step,
bought her a symbolic gift, and wrote her a long,
long letter... again confessing his feelings.

And then the unthinkable happened.

She didn't reply.

He called her three times a day for almost a
week before reaching her.

She made an excuse about being very busy, and
said "I'll try to give you a call soon, I have
to go"... and hung up...

...but he never got a call back.

Over the following months, the man tried
desperately to understand what went wrong... and
what happened.

THE END

OK, I'm back.

Now, wasn't that a sweet story?

Heart warming, huh?

I know, I should keep my day job, and not take
up writing romance novels...

Now, let's talk about that story.

That story is basically a MYTH.

And I'm not talking about FICTION here.

I'm talking about a story that rings true for
a great majority of men. A story that is timeless.
A story that resonates at a deep level because you
can IDENTIFY with it.

And why does this particular story resonate for
most men?

Because we've all been there in one way or
another... at one time or another... and many of
us have been there OFTEN in our lives.

Another thing that gives this particular story
a lot of power is the powerful negative emotions
that it stirs... as a result of the powerful
negative experiences that it reminds us of...

Stories and situations like this one really
FASCINATE me.

They fascinate me because I see them as an
opportunity to UNDERSTAND and SOLVE the puzzles
that they represent.

In this particular situation I think there is
a solution.

And it lies in understanding a secret that
women know but MEN DON'T.

And that secret comes down to the reality that
if a woman isn't ATTRACTED to a man, all of his
attempts to confess his love, convince her to
like him, and court her BACKFIRE.

In other words, they not only DON'T WORK,
they actually make things WORSE.

In other words, the very things that a man does
to try to make a woman LIKE HIM make her NOT
like him. They make her run.

All those great intentions and emotional
dedication actual cause the man feeling them to
do things that make her go away.

It sucks.

And I hope that by explaining the process of
how this happens to you I'll help you avoid this
painful situation in your own future...


THE "INSTANT EWWW"

I'm always fascinated by the idea that we
humans don't always understand the message that
we're communicating to others...

So often we think that because we WANT to
communicate a message that others are going to
NATURALLY understand what we're trying to say.

Have you ever seen a guy in a foreign car
that has wheels on it that cost more than the
car itself... with his stereo blasting... and
a muffler that somehow AMPLIFIES the raw sound
of the 4-cylinder motor...?

Have you ever thought to yourself "I don't
think that car is communicating the message to
women that he thinks it is"...?

Yea, I have too.

Well here's the deal:

If you do something to "let a woman know how
you feel"... but she isn't ATTRACTED to you, then
it's going to backfire.

It's going to trigger a feeling that like to
call the "Instant Ewww".

The Instant Ewww is just as powerful as the
physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION.

Once a woman feels it, YOU'RE DONE.

It's over.

It's like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into
the coffin.

Once a woman feels the Instant Ewww, she will
start behaving differently.

In short, she'll disappear.

So where did I get the concept of the "Instant
Ewww"?

I got it from WOMEN.

I have actually heard SEVERAL women use the
word "Ewww" when describing how they felt about
a guy that was "confessing his love"... of course,
these were guys that weren't loved in return.

So what causes the Instant Ewww?

And why would a woman feel it towards a man who
was trying to be nice... a guy who was giving her
a gift or telling her how he feels?

Because if you think about it from HER
perspective, you'll realize that the moment a
you do something to "confess", you have created a
TURNING POINT in the relationship.

Up until that point, you were harmless.

I mean, women always know how men feel.

She already knew you wanted her.

She knew it from the beginning.

But now that you've started pursuing her and
talking about how you feel, you've created a
NEGATIVE TENSION that is VERY uncomfortable.

You've triggered an emotion that is repulsive
to women. And it does repel them.

In summary...

You can't "make a woman like you" or "change
how she feels about you" by doing nice things for
her...

Doing "nice" things for a woman who isn't
attracted to you HURTS you. It backfires. Worse,
it creates the "Instant Ewww" feeling that makes
it so she'll NEVER like you.

Men make this mistake over and over again in
life because they're doing what MAKES SENSE to
them. They're doing it because they don't have
an understanding of ATTRACTION.

I mean, If you have a friend, and you like
them, and you want to make them like you more...
and you do some nice thing for them, they will
probably like you more.

On the other hand...

If you have a woman that you "like" in a romantic
way, and she doesn't "feel it" for you, and you
do something nice for her because you want HER to
like you more, it will BACKFIRE... and she will
not only NOT like you more, she will most likely
distance herself from you.

Guys think that they need to communicate when
they like a woman... as if that's part of the
necessary process of getting a girl.

In their minds, it goes like this:

Like her>Tell her you like her>She likes you

Well remember... if you follow this pattern
yourself with women who aren't ATTRACTED to you,
then it's going to BACKFIRE.

If she's not into you, then it goes like THIS:

She thinks of you as a friend>You tell her you
like her>She gets the "Instant Ewwws" and never
wants to be around you again...


THE ANSWER

There are really TWO answers to this problem.

The first answer is what to do if you're in a
situation where you like a particular girl, but
you don't know if she likes you back.

DON'T GET HEAVY WITH HER.

Don't buy her a big gift and write a love
letter...

Don't send her ten dozen roses to her work
with a not that says "From your secret admirer".

Don't call her three times a day.

And DON'T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for her.

If you want to know how she feels about you,
KISS HER (and use "The Kiss Test" that you
learned on my website and in my book).

As a rule of thumb, don't get heavier than
HER. Use SIGNALS from her to find out how she
feels... and if you don't know how to read and
create those signals, then LEARN.

Asking a woman if she's interested in your
in a romantic way, or if you are "her type" will
actually DESTROY the chances that she'll like
you.

Really.

The SECOND answer is to not get into this
particular situation in the FIRST PLACE. Avoid
it entirely.

And how does one do that?

One does that by creating ATTRACTION from
the beginning.

One does that by understanding the dynamics
of how and why women have the physical and
emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered.

One does that by knowing what you're doing
FROM THE BEGINNING.

And what's the best way to learn THAT
skill?

I thought you'd never ask...

The very best way to learn how to make women
feel ATTRACTION for you is to get yourself a
copy of my eBook, Double Your Dating.

I've spent several years now studying the
ways that men who are "naturals" communicate
using their words, voice tone, and body language
that makes them MAGNETIC to women.

And I'll tell you... it's not magic.

You don't have to be rich, handsome, or young.

And you don't have to be LUCKY.

What you DO have to do is LEARN.

It's a skill, and I honestly believe that ANY
man can learn it if he wants.

But you're not likely to figure it out by
"trial and error". Many of the keys to making
women feel ATTRACTION aren't "obvious" at all.

In fact, many of them make no sense... and
they're the LAST thing you'd do in a particular
situation if you didn't know the SECRETS.

I'm telling you, this book will show you
the way. I guarantee that this program will
INSTANTLY change how you behave around women.

And it will start getting you results
IMMEDIATELY.

In addition, I'd also like to invite you to sign up for my free dating tips newsletter.

It's free, there's no obligation, I'll never share your email address with anyone, and you can easily remove yourself anytime with no hassles (and no, I'll never pull any of these tricks where I send you a bunch of unwanted junk email when you try to remove yourself).

It's JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for overcoming fear, approaching women, getting phone numbers and email address from women quickly, great inexpensive or even free date ideas, and advice on how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily.

Via datingtips4men.com.

Bad guys really do get the most girls

NICE guys knew it, now two studies have confirmed it: bad boys get the most girls. The finding may help explain why a nasty suite of antisocial personality traits known as the "dark triad" persists in the human population, despite their potentially grave cultural costs.



The traits are the self-obsession of narcissism; the impulsive, thrill-seeking and callous behaviour of psychopaths; and the deceitful and exploitative nature of Machiavellianism. At their extreme, these traits would be highly detrimental for life in traditional human societies. People with these personalities risk being shunned by others and shut out of relationships, leaving them without a mate, hungry and vulnerable to predators.But being just slightly evil could have an upside: a prolific sex life, says Peter Jonason at New Mexico State University in Las Cruces. "We have some evidence that the three traits are really the same thing and may represent a successful evolutionary strategy."

Jonason and his colleagues subjected 200 college students to personality tests designed to rank them for each of the dark triad traits. They also asked about their attitudes to sexual relationships and about their sex lives, including how many partners they'd had and whether they were seeking brief affairs.

The study found that those who scored higher on the dark triad personality traits tended to have more partners and more desire for short-term relationships, Jonason reported at the Human Behavior and Evolution Society meeting in Kyoto, Japan, earlier this month. But the correlation only held in males.

James Bond epitomises this set of traits, Jonason says. "He's clearly disagreeable, very extroverted and likes trying new things - killing people, new women." Just as Bond seduces woman after woman, people with dark triad traits may be more successful with a quantity-style or shotgun approach to reproduction, even if they don't stick around for parenting. "The strategy seems to have worked. We still have these traits," Jonason says.

This observation seems to hold across cultures. David Schmitt of Bradley University in Peoria, Illinois, presented preliminary results at the same meeting from a survey of more than 35,000 people in 57 countries. He found a similar link between the dark triad and reproductive success in men. "It is universal across cultures for high dark triad scorers to be more active in short-term mating," Schmitt says. "They are more likely to try and poach other people's partners for a brief affair."

Barbara Oakley of Oakland University in Rochester, Michigan, says that the studies "verify something a lot of people have conjectured about".

Christopher von Rueden of the University of California at Santa Barbara says that the studies are important because they confirm that personality variation has direct fitness consequences.

"They still have to explain why it hasn't spread to everyone," says Matthew Keller of the University of Colorado in Boulder. "There must be some cost of the traits." One possibility, both Keller and Jonason suggest, is that the strategy is most successful when dark triad personalities are rare. Otherwise, others would become more wary and guarded.

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