How to Become an Alpha Male- Get the Hell Out of MY Head!

Before you can even become an alpha male, you need to start afresh. When I say starting afresh, it means getting over your past failed relationships. The reason why many people fear getting their dating life handled is because they have a failed relationship and they lose faith in getting into another relationship.



I am not a relationship expert and most of my tips are not meant for staying in a long relationship. However, since I was a beta male not too long ago, I have experienced many not so pleasant relationships. I can understand many of your pain and agony but I still pick myself up. Today’s article, you may have guessed it, is on getting her OUT of your HEAD forever!

If you still don’t know what I mean, it means getting over your past relationship. Let’s get her out of your mind right away…

To solve this problem, I personally think that you need to prevent it first. So, how do you even prevent this problem from happening? Well, don’t build or centered your life on boy girl relationships. This is the worst thing that many people do. They put all their energy and effort onto the relationship. They worked hard because of the relationship, they save money because of relationship; they spend money because of relationship. Whatever they do, the purpose behind is because of relationship. And when the relationship fails, their life crumbles. Instead of building your life on relationship, build your life upon principles. Principles like integrity, diligence, determination etc. I am not saying that you don’t look after your relationship but not to build your life on them. It is too dangerous.

If your relationship has really ended, accept it and end any kind of hope that both of you will get back together. I know it may sounds hard but you need to accept the fact that both of you are not going to get back together. Once you truthfully accept it, you will start to heal from the relationship.

Stay busy. You may have heard me mention this before but I am going to say it again. Staying busy not only helps you get the girl that you want but also help you get her out of your mind. After your day job, hang out with your friends or hit out at the gym. Talk to your best male friends about the relationship and laugh about it. Enjoy the moment of laughing about it. A not so successful relationship won’t affect your life.

Go get a new girlfriend. What else is the best way to get over her? That’s right, go get yourself a women that is more worthy of your attention and care. She’s the one who is losing out when she wants to end the relationship with you. You deserve someone much better than her. So, just kick yourself out of the sissy mode of brooding over the failed relationship and MOVE on with life.

My last tip for you today is getting the book here. By reading this book, you will be transformed into a real alpha male that naturally scores with women. Get your inner self settled you won’t even have a problem with any failed relationship. This is what an alpha male is supposed to be. So be the one in control of your dating life instead of her.

Via becomethealphamalenow.com.

Redheads 'have more sex than blondes or brunettes'

Blondes may have more fun but redheads have more sex, according to new research in Germany.



The study by Hamburg Sex Researcher Professor Dr Werner Habermehl looked at the sex lives of hundreds of German women and compared them with their hair colour.

He said: "The sex lives of women with red hair were clearly more active than those with other hair colour, with more partners and having sex more often than the average. The research shows that the fiery redhead certainly lives up to her reputation."

He added that women who dyed their hair red from another colour were signalling they were looking for a partner, and added: "Even women in a fixed relationship are letting their partners know they are unhappy if they dye their hair red. They are saying that they are looking for something better."

Psychologist Christine Baumanns said however that it may not be the women who were to blame for the better sex lives of redheads.

She said: "Red stands for passion and when a man sees a redhead he will think he is dealing with a woman who won't mess around, and gets straight to the point when it comes to sex."

Via dailymail.co.uk.

Study shows more sex for depressed women

DEPRESSED women have more sex than those who are happier, regardless of whether they are in a relationship or not, a study of Australians has found.



A survey of Melbourne women presented at an international mental health conference has concluded that females who suffer from mild to moderate depression have a third more sexual activity than those who are not.

They also had more sexually liberated attitudes, a bigger variety of sexual experiences and, if single, were more likely to partake in casual sex, Dr Sabura Allen, a clinical psychologist at Monash University, said.

"It was more sex and more of everything from kissing to petting, foreplay and intercourse," said Dr Allen, who studied the recent sexual experiences of 107 depressed and non-depressed women who were in relationships.

"We knew this anecdotally from clinical samples but this is the first time it's been shown in research."

She said depressed women were likely seeking out sexual intimacy more often to help feel more secure.

"When people are depressed they feel more insecure about their relationships and concerned that their partner may not care about them or find them valuable," Dr Allen said.

"Having sex helps them feel that closeness and security."

Asked whether intercourse could be an effective balm for depression, the psychologist said "we really don't know but we presume it helps as it gives these women opportunities to be close to their partner and loved."

The team also is investigating depressed single women and has found a trend towards more casual sex than happier singles.

Dr Allen said Australian couples tend to have sex between once and three times a week, with "very much the majority in the once a week group".

Single women have it "significantly less", but the same is not necessarily true of single men.

The study, soon to be published in a British medical journal, was presented today at the International Congress on Women's Mental Health in Melbourne where the latest research in mental illness and hormone-related conditions is being showcased.

New studies have shown high rates of severe PMS and post-natal depression among Australian women, a dramatic drop in the abortion rate, and a promising new treatment for Alzheimer's disease.

Via news.com.au.

Unzip American Sexuality and What Do You Find? Tech

Brian Alexander investigates how Americans have sex in his new book, America Unzipped: In Search of Sex and Satisfaction.

When journalist Brian Alexander set out to investigate how Americans have sex, he didn't expect to be studying it through the lens of technology.

"I knew I was going to find that digital culture has changed the way people get sexually involved, but I surprised even myself at how true it really is," he says.

Alexander's new book, America Unzipped: In Search of Sex and Satisfaction found that you can't write about contemporary sexuality without bumping into technology.

Virtual worlds, chat rooms, social networking and Catholics using birth control -- sex is infused with tech at every turn.

Alexander is the Sexploration columnist at MSNBC.com and a contributing editor at Glamour magazine, and it sounds like his inbox looks a lot like mine. Like me, he noticed a shift in what readers were asking in the past year or so. More sophisticated queries ("Where can I learn more about safe ways to use electricity during sex?") were replacing questions about the basics ("If my husband wants me to put my finger in his ass, is he gay?").

Unlike me, he pitched a multimedia investigative series to find out why. The result is America Unzipped, which includes articles, online videos and discussion forums in addition to the book.

Alexander traveled all around the United States, delving into smaller communities and conservative regions as well as sexually progressive cities like Seattle and San Francisco, to uncover what we're really doing under the covers.

It turns out that Americans are not nearly as Puritanical, frightened, angry or perturbed as the religious groups and politicians waging the war on sex would have you believe.

We’re not even terribly bothered by the notion that technology has become an integral aspect of sexuality. In fact, "love and let love" is a much more widely held philosophy here than is generally assumed.

In the South, Alexander found that faith and sexual freedom can blossom side by side; plenty of Southern Baptists and Catholics see no conflict between their relationships with God and their choices to use birth control, sex toys, pornography or to have sex outside of marriage.

He tried his hand as a sex educator/retail clerk at an adult store in Tempe, Arizona for a week. ("The longer I worked there, the more I realized it's a very middle-class bourgeois thing to do, going to an adult store.") And as a Passion Parties assistant in the Midwest, he learned that mothers, daughters and sisters can sit comfortably around the living room to shop for arousal-enhancing gels and vibrating cock rings.

In Maryland, he spent time with a couple that uses Craigslist to find other people for group sex. "In five minutes she opened the laptop on the kitchen table, found responses to ads they'd placed, and decided who to meet up with," he says. "While it's not news that people can do that, to see people do it so easy and so quickly was almost startling to me."

Over and over again, Alexander's subjects told him that the internet had opened their eyes, dispelled their fears, given them new avenues for pleasure, and provided support as they figured out what they really wanted from sex.

(In the book, he confesses to reaching a point where he simply refuses to allow one more person to gush about the internet. "Isn't it possible," he muses, "that we're just bored?")

After touring the Adam & Eve toy factory in North Carolina, attending a fetish conference in Florida, watching a hardcore BDSM porn shoot in San Francisco, and taking in an all-kinks-welcome sex party in Seattle, Alexander concludes that while this explosion of sexual exploration is not hurting American culture, the culture that enables it may actually be hurting sex.

"I think we are living in ever more disconnected times without great senses of community, family, belonging," he says. "People go looking. Some turn to fundamentalist religious views. Some turn to phony tribalism -- I mean, really, white boys with Maori tribal tattoos? Come on.

"Turning to sex is at least as rational a response as religion. Maybe more so, because at least it is a connection with another human being. Sex is believable in a world which offers us very little to believe in anymore.

"But sex gets hurt when this response leads to a loss of subtlety, of romance and sex as an art form, a dance, a work of imagination."

And yet, by definition, we lock the investigator out of those subtle, romantic, imaginative spaces. The dance he speaks of may be too subtle for an observer to notice (especially amidst the sensory overload of a fetish ball or the extremely cerebral work of sex in virtual worlds). If you haven't experienced the subtleties, the art, the works of imagination that are particular to sex tech, can you learn to see them in others?

Alexander is skeptical about critics who suggest personal experience may be necessary to present a truly balanced chronicle of contemporary sexuality.

"It's called journalism," he says. "If I'm going to cover a war, I have to kill people?"

Via www.wired.com.

7 Common Mistakes Men Usually Make in Relationships

Love is blind! It is an ecstatic feeling. It is beyond everything – divine. At the same time, it is very complex just as human mind is. We have mixed emotions; we feel happy, we feel sad, we feel worried and we feel settled and easy too. But, in this stream of emotions we tend to make mistakes that can lead to losing our love. We tend to forget that love never dies a natural death. It dies of blindness and blunders. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. If you have lost your love you can Get your Ex girl friend back using the simple tips. This book will guide you on what you can do to get your love back in your life. It works best for the people who think that everything they do pushes her father. Bring her back and don’t repeat the mistakes you did earlier. Here are some common mistakes that we should avoid to have a long lasting and joyous relationship.

Pretending to meet her expectations? – Be yourself instead – The reason your girl friend is dating you, is that she liked you as you are. Don’t try to become someone she told she dreamt of, as her perfect date. Just be yourself and you will find her closer to you. Of course, everyone has fear of rejection and that is human nature. But, don’t play games just because you want her attention. Be real and genuine! Keep growing as an individual and she will stay interested in you.

Clinging to the past? - Leave the past where it belongs – If you have had a relationship in the past. Just dump it as you dumped your favorite jeans that tattered. Get over your ex completely before you get into a new relationship. Discussing and comparing your ex-girl friend with new one can be a real turn-off.

Keeping things to you? – Communicate – Relationships rest on how well you understand your mate. Share things with your girl friend and strengthen the bonding. This will make you more free and comfortable with each other. Sharing keeps love alive! If you have an argument, keep a mum for few minutes, but don’t sleep over your problems. Relax and then discuss it calmly, to bring them to an end.

Spending too much time with her? – Big No-No – You will be risking too much doing this. If you spend most of time with her, you will not be able to spare time for your friends. And, you might lose close friends. Moreover, you’ll be smothering her personal time. A little bit of space braces the bond of love and the urge to meet too!

Saying ‘I Love you’, soon and frequently? – Be generous in their usage - Don’t shower her with these three words more often. Let them work their magic once in a while. Women love to hear them, but an over dose might jade the spark. Also, don’t use these magical words early in your relationship. Love is all about correct timing. Revealing the suspense in the beginning would throw the audience out of the theatre. Build it up, let her wait and long for it.

She is not perfect? – She’ll never be – It’s not a person who is perfect, it is the relationship two people make that becomes perfect. Nobody is perfect in fact, sometimes we see the faults early, and others not until later. Friendship in a couple makes their relationship strong enough to endure. Don’t expect her to change, develop an understanding rather, so that the good outweighs the bad. Expectations make relationships nerve-racking and fragile!

You are an open book? – Keep some mystery – Don’t be readily available. Let her explore you, wonder about you. Monopolize her thoughts! Uncertainty and unpredictability keeps the spark in relationship. Sweet surprises have a touch of the unknown! Foster the ability to keep the mystery. Learn How to be Irresistible to Women. You can use the tips mentioned in this e-book, to master the art of seducing her.

Happy dating!

Via loverslovelife.com.

Sex – When Sex is Just Sex: It is what it is but how about the guys speak up!

A few days ago I wrote about The Justifying Zone, that slippery slope that women can find themselves on when they stick with a guy so that they can justify their emotional or sexual investment, even if they recognise that that the relationship is doomed. A couple of male commenters raised the point that sometimes a guy just wants sex, which of course made me want to revisit this subject.

Ladies, we like to see shades of grey, read between the lines, and see gold (or even platinum) where there is in fact copper, but sometimes sex, really is just that; SEX. It’s not the beginning of a grand love affair, it’s not an indicator of greater things to come, and it’s not a great idea to base a relationship solely off how good a guys strokes are…

The trouble is, are guys honest enough to say that sex is just sex?

Guys, we are not frickin’ mind readers. We don’t find out things by osmosis and there are many men out there that do not own a pair of brass balls to be upfront and honest about their intentions, or should I say, sexual intentions. Instead, because they don’t want to be perceived as a total bastard and of course they don’t actually want to endanger the possibility of actually getting laid, they bring on all the hearts, flowers, charm, and hints of more to come, only to have to backtrack and make a rapid disappearance afterwards.

This is all a double edged penis sword. Yes we should both be adult enough to screw like rabbits and walk away but we are humans. Casual sex is rarely just ‘casual’ and it’s only casual sex if BOTH parties know that they’re having casual sex in the first place!

As far as I’m concerned, it is just sex if:

One or both of you actually say it is

You meet and screw in the same night (one night stand)

The only thing that exists between you both irrespective of how long you have known each other is sex

Anything else is open to misinterpretation and it is alarming how many women will still see it as more even if it is one of the above situations.

“Yeah but we talk a lot” one woman said to me recently. Moaning, groaning, asking when you can meet up, and making small talk to facilitate you both having sex and appearing polite is NOT talking a lot!

Whilst I do think that we can be guilty of building sandcastles in the sky on occasion, I have to say here that much of the ambiguity that surrounds sex and women feeling the need to justify the fact that they slept with the guy by investing themselves further is caused by ambiguous, hard to read men who blow hot and cold and leave everything ‘literally’ wide open to interpretation. So guys, if it’s just sex, maybe you should start by saying it is, or avoid going for women who clearly want more than you’re actually able to give!

But…ladies, ladies, ladies, heed the signs. If it walks like duck, quacks like a duck, and flaps its pretty little wings like a duck, it’s a duck. Pause for a moment the next time you’re in this situation and strip away all of the rationalising, reasoning, and justifying, and ask yourself if you have anything left besides a walking, talking…penis.

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Via baggagereclaim.co.uk.

No dating, thanks, just sex

Dating culture is dead - instead, young New Zealand women are regularly getting drunk and cruising around in packs looking for men to have sex with.



That's one of the findings of a TVNZ Sunday investigation into the sexual behaviour of New Zealand women. The programme makers did the story after Kiwi women last year topped the Durex Sexual Wellbeing Global Survey as the world's most promiscuous.

They are reported to have an average of 20 sexual partners, double that of their Australian and British counterparts and almost three times the global average of seven.

TVNZ Sunday correspondent Janet McIntyre said there was anecdotal evidence from the five women on the show that the Durex survey findings were valid.

"There's a new kind of mating ritual sex is the point of entry into the relationship."

If the first-up sex wasn't any good women weren't prepared to waste their time progressing the relationship.

"There's no dating culture any more." In candid interviews about their sexual experiences some of the women who are all in their twenties felt empowered by having sex and wanted to celebrate and enjoy it.

McIntyre said all the women who had experienced one-night stands had been affected by alcohol, a term described by at least one expert in a report as "getting pissed and hooking up".

Men are also feeling the impact from the new sexual tactics being employed by women.

The Sunday Star-Times' Being a Bloke survey last year found that 29% of the 5000 men surveyed felt they had been pressured into having sex or had had sex unwillingly.
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stuff.co.nz.

15 things no man wants to hear... from a woman

1. Any stories about ex-boyfriends, even ones told against the poor blokes. If your ex was a violent, brainless, tattooed ex-con, this will only make us feel boring and unmanly. And scared.

2. The phrase 'I'd say it's bang-on average, if not slightly bigger'. Best to steer clear of the size issue. Like us talking about your weight, it can only lead to misunderstanding and hurt.

3. Obsessive accounts of your diet and exercise regime. Men like skinny women, true. But they dislike being exposed to the borderline eating disorders and pathological obsessiveness that produce them. And curvy and sane always beats mad and thin. Eventually.

4. The accusing phrase, 'What's wrong with the blue dress, then?' after we have said we like the red one.

5. Any details of your day at work. Although men can find the most basic things endlessly fascinating - the number of buttons on their shirts, farting - they will suddenly develop ADD when it comes to your professional life. Unless you are a porn actress. No, actually, even then...

6. Any information about things you thought about buying. We are perfectly happy to admire actual purchases, but yearning for those phantom shoes/dress/bag exasperates us.

7. Stories about other men patronising you. This will give us an irresistible urge to ruffle your hair and say in a kids-TV voice, 'Awww, did dey? Did dey do dat to oo?' I know, sometimes we're asking for trouble.

8. The word 'Fine' as a stand-alone sentence. The scariest syllable in the female vocabulary.

9. The sound of weeping. It destroys us.

10. Any details of strife you may be having with your female friends. The endless round of hurt and rapprochement that constitutes girls' friendships mystifies us. If she's that much trouble just delete her from your bloody mobile.

11. The phrase, 'Hang on, I'll just reply to this text before we order'. We want first claim on your attention, woman.

12. The phrase, 'Can you turn over, you're snoring'. Great, that's both of us awake.

13. The words 'Am I special? Am I?' Especially if you are drawing a circle around our nipple with your finger at the time.

14. Anyone else's name, in your sleep.

15. Your dreams. Unless we're in them. And in a good light, too. If not, save 'em for the shrink.

Via observer.guardian.co.uk.